“Being ‘In’ it but not ‘Of ‘ it”
By Sheila T Warfield
Years ago as I grew deeper into my career, I remember feeling as though what I oftentimes saw and experienced in corporate America were incongruent with my beliefs and values. I struggled with making sense of it all.
If I truly believed in integrity, treating others with dignity and respect, being fair, and working hard, how could I stomach working in an environment that lacked much of what I valued most.
After prayer and much contemplation, I had an epiphany: I can be “in” it but not “of” it. It was a spiritual breakthrough for me. I could work in corporate America and be true to my values. I would work hard and exemplify honesty and integrity regardless of my surroundings.
I was so relieved because I loved working, and I knew I had to be the person I believe God intended for me to be. I would have to find the courage to be me in spite of my circumstances.
Twenty years later, I can honesty say that this philosophy became a guiding principle that helped me make peace with being ‘in’ a place but ‘not’ necessarily ‘of’ it. I didn’t have to embrace the attitudes or behaviors that were not positive or productive.
Don’t get me wrong, it was tough! However, I held on and lived my values no matter what. Did I lose out on some opportunities? Yes. Was I ostracized? Sometimes. Was my career path slowed at times? Sure. But, I stayed true to ME! And, every single day, without exception, I could look at myself in the mirror and sleep at night.
And, that was the difference!
So, be YOU and live your values no matter what! It will help you maintain a sense of self and you’ll avoid defining yourself by your job or where you work.
Adapting to a company is important. And, hopefully, you would find a company or organization that’s a good cultural fit for you based on your values. Regardless, remember you always have the choice to be “IN” it but not “OF” it. And, this philosophy doesn’t have to be shared with anyone. It can be your private mantra that guides you and brings you peace, especially in moments of conflict or frustration.